What a morbid thing to have to do. Make out a will. Since Leif''s birth I have been much more diligent in preparing for the hopefully unlikely event that something should happen to Hans or I or both of us. I beefed up my life insurance through work, Hans went through the long process of buying life insurance and we made up wills this weekend (yes, I already said that).
How do you even decide who will take care of your children should something happen to you? In one instance I am thinking of all the wonderful people around us, and the next I am thinking about how none of them are good enough. They all have flaws. Obviously Hans and I have flaws - or at least we must since we know a lot of people with kids and none have asked us to be guardians or godparents. But we are perfect for Leif. He has only been in our life almost 4 months and we know how perfect we are for him and he for us.
Anyways, we ended up selecting Scott and Beth for this morbid duty and they agreed. Scott is Hans' brother and Beth is his wife. Of all the people close to us, they are probably the most like us. They are engineers, we are scientists. They understand the value of higher education. They have strong morals and convictions, yet are open minded and non-judgemental. They could also afford to take care of our child/future children. Even though there would be life insurance. Also foremost in our thinking is that they live in Colorado and are relatively likely to stay there, near my family.
In ruling people out, we did it for a variety of reasons. Our parents were ruled out just because they should be grandparents, not parents to our children. Some people were ruled out because of their instability in life, others for where they live, and still others for character traits. Friends were ruled out because we didn't feel like we could saddle our friends with the burden of our children. Family on the other hand, you can do that to!
My hope is that if the awful did occur that our family and friends would all work together to provide for our child.
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